Hey there! After reading your blogs, you have inspired some new topics for me to cover…so thank you fellow bloggers! Your stories and wit gave me a much needed push to continue writing and hopefully provide someone the same encouragement you did me.
A few of you mentioned online dating profile pics. What you’ve come across, what you wish you came across, and the like. The following will be from my experience.
Now that I’m hitched (via match.com), I’ve been sending my single friends and family members profiles that I think would be worth their time. In doing so, I have come across many not so alluring headshots. It never ceases to amaze me what some people use as visual bait.
For the men out there:
- Your main pic should be a clear, smiling photo of you… not a topless photo of you, not a photo of you 100 feet away, and certainly not a photo of you lost amongst a group of people that probably don’t even know they are inadvertently on an online dating site
- Your main pic (or really any pic), should not be the same one used to get your passport … we can tell because the background almost always resembles a grey prison backdrop
- You should not be wearing sunglasses in your main photo
- You should have more than 1…make that at least 5 photos of yourself… just yourself, not including pictures you took of Mt. Everest and tiger lillies
- You should not exceed 10 pics of yourself (more than that screams picture hog)… from different days. Please do not have 10 pics of yourself in the same place with 10 different (or not so different poses), unless they are placeholders for soon to be replacement pics. This makes us think you think you looked good only once in your adult life
- Photos should not be more than 5 years old
- If by some chance you lost/gained a lot of weight or changed drastically within the past 5 years, update the pic accordingly and do not use the above mentioned rule as a loophole
- Please don’t flex
- Please don’t post a photo of you taking your own photo… that’s very highschool myspace
- Please don’t post a professional headshot as your main pic…feel free to post that as one of your 7 pics in the profile itself
- Professional pics should only be used if you are in fact a model/actor/ or in the entertainment world… otherwise it just looks weird that you would go through the trouble of even acquiring a professional pic
In prowling online, I also check out what I like to call “the competition” which falls under the same demo and likeness of who I am man-hunting for. This is how I get to check out the ladies that are coming up for the men searching a similar demo. I gotta hand it to you ladies. We as a sex far exceed the photo capability than our male counterparts…good job! The below are some pointers for those not so pic savvy.
For the ladies out there:
All the above including
- Don’t post photos of you dressed like a hoochie mama and get mad when he thinks you are a hoochie mama… yes, I know we have the right to dress anyway we want (I too dressed like a hoochie mama way back when), but realize men are not the brightest when they see t and a. They don’t really care if you are a literary genius if they can make out your right nipple in a pic
- Don’t pout your lips
- Don’t try to look extra sultry… most likely it will be a failed attempt and you just look strange
- If possible, take a pic from at least the chest up (including your arms)… I’ve been told by many a guy that they like to get a better idea of what a date looks like before committing to a meet… yes yes, I know this is shallow and unfair, but we all know they are visual creatures
I would love to hear what you think about the above and of course what you have come across!
- The older woman’s guide to internet dating (dailymail.co.uk)
- 10 commandments of online dating (madekreations.wordpress.com)
- Inside The Game: How Online Pickup Artists Work (buzzfeed.com)
- Interview: Digital love: how data can help your dating (techradar.com)
- The Do’s and Don’ts of Online Publicity, For Some Reason (ritholtz.com)