Hey everyone! The other day I was watching “He’s just not that into you” on TV. This is a movie based on comedian Greg Behrendt (who I saw live during a stand up routine and is absolutely, positively hillarrioouuusss), self help book which he co-wrote with Liz Tuccillo. The movie summarizes if and when a guy likes you based on what he is or isn’t doing.
The thought behind it is so simple yet so genius.
You can tell if a guy (or really anyone), isn’t into you when:
- If a guy doesn’t call you, he’s not into you
- If a guy doesn’t ask for your number and in turn gives you his business card for you to call him, he’s not into you
- If a guy acts like a douche, he’s not into you
you get the idea.
Anyways, this movie got me reminiscing about my girlfriends and I and the crap we used to tell eachother when the guys we liked acted like jerks. We couldn’t fathom that these guys just didn’t like us so we made up elaborate excuses justifying their douchy behavior. The sad part was, we actually believed these lies. We believed they “were too busy at work” or “not a phone person” when they wouldn’t call when they said they would.
A good quote to go by is:
“I’m about to make a wild, extreme and severe relationship rule: the word busy is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember men are never to busy to get what they want.” ― Greg Behrendt
The reminiscing I am referring to happened when text messaging first came into existence. Nowadays, there are so many ways to get in contact by not really getting in contact. How does anyone know who likes whom? Right? Wrong! The same rules still apply.
Ladies, if a guy really likes you, he will find a way to call you and speak with you directly. If he continues to Facebook/text/im/bbm you in lieu of having a conversation… odds are, he has a secret family stashed somewhere and it’s time to move on.
Here is a tricky question: what if the guy you like calls you but only to hang out after 9pm? This means you are his booty call. I may be old school, and yes, there may be some exceptions out there, but as a general rule… people usually make plans for dates (meaning at least a day ahead of time). If a guy is calling you after the sun goes down and restaurants (as well as most delis), are closed, he just wants to play a little grab-ass. He may want to “look at the stars under the night sky”, but he could have fed you beforehand… move on.
Ladies, have you ever been the victim of a “fake out”? What made you get over him?
Gentlemen, have you?
Would love to hear your stories!
- Ladies! 4 reasons to stop searching for The One and let him find you (motivateyourworld.com)
- He’s just not that into me? On to the Next… (agirlunlikeanyother.wordpress.com)
- He’s Just Not That Into You..My Wake-Up Call (veronicavesper.wordpress.com)