The hamster wheel of love… knowing when to hop off

Hamster on Wheel

Why wont it stop?  Make it stop? … I’m so tired 

Hola!  In reminicing a bit over relationships as a whole, I noticed that many folks fall into patterns.  Some good, others destructive.  This is applicable to all types of relationships we are in and not exclusive to just romantic relationships.  For example, you can have a douche for a girlfriend and a cluster of douchy friends.

See what I mean?

When you are alone, lying awake angry, you begin to wonder why.  Or at least I have.

Some may wonder “why do I always attract cocky assholes?”  While others “How come I wind up with lazy sunnava bitches?”

For  years I was either in a destructive relationship or on my way to one.  Did I not mention my druggie ex?  Promise… details in a future blog.

Anyways, I was always a wackadoo.  Maybe it was my upbringing, genitic code, or a bit of both.  I was always attracted to more aggressive men (still am).  This I define as NOT passive.  It’s a turn on for me.  I like to have someone who knows what they are doing and not afraid to take risks.  Not at all a bad quality.

Unfortunately for me, a lot of pricks possess such qualities mixed in with a bunch of other unsavory habits.  Looking back,  it was a blast at times, but then the relationship turned into a “bad boy” afterschool special.

The same holds true for lazy sunnava bitches.  A close friend of mine always wound up with soulful “artists” who cried when it rained.  They would be able to play guitar and write sonnets in their sleep, but couldn’t pay their rent or phone bill.  They would never “take you out”, and God forbid they got a cold.  They would act so helpless, you began to wonder when you became a certified nurse.

The same can be said for gorgeous golddiggers.  You know, the ones that tell you everything you want to hear as long as you pay them.  The unmotivated lost soul… I don’t think I have to explain that one.  Personally, I find that last one to be the most irritating.

Why do you keep falling into these types of ungratifying relationships?

Here is what you need to do:

  • Make 2 lists (mental or on paper… you know I like paper)
  1. qualities you like about the douche you’re with
  2. qualities you don’t like about the douche you can’t stand
  • Dump the jerk
  • Go on plenty of dates (preferably online, but traditional dates will do fine)
  • Any time any of your future dates possess negative qualities from list #2, move on and (very important), don’t give it a second thought/ make excuses

Like everthing in life, you have to realize and define you have “a problem”.  Then you can make steps to move forward and improve your life.

Any of you had a realization you always attracted the same type of person good or bad?  If bad, did you fall into another bad relationship?  How come you think that is?

Would love to hear from you!

*help me rule the world and follow me on twitter: @angiegomez1010 *

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6 responses to “The hamster wheel of love… knowing when to hop off

  1. Wished I’d found your blog a lifetime ago – it could have saved me soooooooooooo much grief!

  2. I love this post . You put it perfectly!!

  3. This is kind of like saying, “Paint your house and the rotting floorboards will go away.” You are attracted to certain types of people because of what is within you. Learn what that is and change it so you won’t be attracted to those types anymore.

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