Monthly Archives: October 2012

Happy Halloween!

Dance, dance, dance.

Boo!  In the spirit of Halloween, here is a photo blast from the past.  This is me and a buddy of mine many years ago striking a mid dance pose at some party.  It was held at some random guys house in the middle of the woods.  He completely decked it out with strobe lights, decorations, etc… think he even had a fog machine.

To answer some questions: Yes, I do believe it was in Jersey (hence the fog machine).  I have no idea why I had my purse on.  We were not lucid when this photo was taken.

Can you tell what we were dressed as?  I’ll give you a hint: In an 80’s cult movie classic, she was in construction by day and a stripper at night who fell in love with her older boss.  Nothing?  Ok, in a fameworthy dance move on stage, she pulled a tassel to drench herself with a bucket of water.

That’s right… Jennifer Beals from Flashdance!

I think I wore this costume 3 years in a row because it was just so comfortable.  All you need is a leotard, grey sweatshirt, tights, legwarmers, and Keds.  Wrist and headband are optional but adds a nice touch.  Feel free to copy and your feet will thank me later :o)

What are some of your favorite costumes that you have gone as?  Or have seen other people in?  Anyone go to/ planning on going to any Halloween parties this year?

Anyone meet anyone at a Halloween party?  I did.  You can read all about it here.

Would love to hear from you!

On a side note:  Am so grateful loved ones in NY are doing well after Hurricane Sandy.  Please pray for those who aren’t.

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The way too much info guy

“But, I’m just…so…sad.” *

Hey there!  Reminiscing about my semi-recent night out in NYC makes me think about a guy who approached bestie and I and shared way too much information. We ran into him in the line for the bathroom, then again by the bar, then again on the rooftop where he offered to take some pics.  Granted he cropped off the bottom half of my head, but it’s the thought that counts.  He seemed nice enough and funny enough to chat to, but then he started getting a bit too raw.

Maybe it’s because he saw wedding bands on and felt he needed to unload his personal issues on taken women, or maybe he thought being a sensitive soul was the way into a girls heart, or maybe he just had too much to drink.

Regardless, it was a little too much for comfort.  He started telling us how he is a nice guy but doesn’t really get along with his sister.  Ok.  Then he started saying his sister has an attitude problem because she is a lesbian and just came out.  What?  Ok.  But then he starts saying he is clinically depressed and takes medication.  Say what?

Words of advice:

  • When meeting someone, anyone outside of the medical profession, for the first time, do not bring up negative family dynamics or personal mental health issues.  This does not make for light banter and makes the other person uncomfortable.

Bestie and I ran away when he went to the bathroom.  He found us again, and brought his skeezy friend.  Maybe he didn’t see the wedding band?

His skeezy friend happened to be the the person I wrote about here.  Perhaps Mr. Asshole was trying to balance out Mr. Too Much Info?  Could jackass have been an unsuccessful trainer of sorts?  What do you think?

Random Online Dating Tip:

  • When meeting for a first date, don’t make it a double or group scenario.  It should just be the two of you.  That way, you and your date can get to see if there is a chance for a second date.

Ever met a wingman that was horrible at his job?  Or have you ever met two people completely opposite of one-another yet close friends?  How do you feel about group first dates?  Think they help or hinder a budding relationship?

Would love to hear from you!

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*pic source

Men, why so shy?

“Two drinks down, one to go… then she wont be able to resist…muhahah”

Hey there!  A recent post of mine was about the not so elusive PUA community.  For those that haven’t had the chance to read though, you can find it here.  Be sure to read the comments below for some answers/ observations to questions asked.  Before I continue, I would like to thank some members of this world for the insight you gave me.

Ladies, they’re not all bad… we just need to learn how to sense a douche from a gem… much like what we do day to day anyways.  Hint: if there is a recording device of any kind documenting your first encounter, most likely it’s not to show the grandkids.

The basic principle is giving men the confidence they need to approach a lady they are interested in…mostly.

This leaves me wondering: What is going on with men nowadays?

Every year that passes, men seem to get more and more timid.  What happened to the go-getter who wasn’t too shy to ask a woman out?  This man transformed into a delicate creature who is too afraid to even say “hi”.  Instead, he would gawk from afar, wait till the lady he has his eye on got herself drunk (with her own money mind you), then pull some Mike the Situation Jersey Shore creeper move.  It’s gotten to the point where men can barely “wink”, or send out an introductory email on an online dating site.

Are they that afraid of rejection?  Have we traumatized them so severely that they don’t even bother coming up at all anymore?  It almost seems that we switched roles and men are now the “fairer sex”.

A dating coach who commented on my last PUA blog brought up a good point and said this behavior has to do with competition.  There is always a bigger better someone out there, especially with all of these technological advances in finding a date, both sexes tend to get picky.  A little too picky.

He brings up a good point.

Random online dating tip (cause that’s what I do):

  • If a guy you meet online (or really any guy) refuses to call you, ever, and prefers to just text, even after you call and leave a message asking him to CALL you back, he’s just not interested.  And I’m not talking about one instance, I’m talking about never calling you.

What’s your take?  Why are men so shy?  Are we woman partly to blame?  Is technology at fault?  Maybe tv shows like Jersey Shore?  Am I the only one who loves the Dos Equis guy?  Why can’t they be like that guy?

Would love to hear from you!

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Black Magic

“Dang, I think I love you.”

Hey there!  I have been craving chocolate.  Not just any chocolate, but the kind of chocolate that makes your toes curl.  Although delicious, I didn’t want to indulge on Hersheys, Reese’s, or the ever fabulous Whatchamacallit bars.  I wanted something that wrapped it’s gooey dark arms around my belly.

So, I did what anyone with a severe choco craving would do, I Googled.

I Googled far and wide for “best chocolate cake recipe”, “chocolate cake recipe”, “moist chocolate cake” and found something beyond delicious called “Black Magic”.  The original recipe is here:

http://www.justapinch.com/recipes/dessert/cake/black-magic-cake-best-chocolate-cake-ever-5.html

I will repost ingredients and directions below with some variations of my own in ( )’s.

What you need:

  • 1 & 3/4 cup all purpose flour
  • 2 cups sugar
  • 3/4 cup cocoa powder
  • 2 tbs baking soda
  • 1 tbs baking powder
  • 1 tsp salt (used Kosher)
  • 2 eggs
  • 1 cup cooled coffee
  • 1 cup buttermilk
  • 1/2 cup veggie oil (used canola)
  • 1 tsp real vanilla extract (used 1 tbs)

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.  Get a large mixing bowl and combine all dry ingredients.  You can use a whisk and just whisk everything around.  In a separate bowl, combine eggs with coffee and vanilla.  Stir together with a fork as if you were making scrambled eggs.  Pour in bowl with dry ingredients and add buttermilk and oil.  Whisk everything together until there are no lumps and everything is smooth.  Batter will be loose.  Pour in a buttered glass baking pan.  Think mine was 9×13.  Put in oven for about 35 min or so.  Remove and cool to room temp.

Frosting:

I went rogue and followed directions loosely cause I don’t like things too sweet.  Here’s my take:

  • 1 cup semi-sweet choc chips, melted (used Nestle brand)
  • 1/2 stick butter
  • 3 tbs milk (used 2% or whatever you have on hand)
  • 1 tsp real vanilla extract

Melt chocolate chips in teflon pot on low to medium heat. (too lazy to do the double broiler thing).  Be sure to constantly stir and just melt chips, not burn.  Toss in butter and keep stirring until fully melted.  Add milk and vanilla to thin.  Keep stirring until chocolate gets smooth and shiny.  Pour over room temp cake.

Enjoy, I know I did!

Feed this to an online date, a mate, presidential candidates, yourself, and everyone in the neighborhood cause it makes about 20 pieces.

Anyone ever get insatiable food cravings?  What are they?  What do you do?

Would love to hear from you!

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PUA community… where you at?

“This course is really paying off”.*

Happy Columbus day!  The writing of my last post, which you can read here,  sparked some great comments, so in honor of keeping them going…and also attempting to gain some undercover lady intel, I’m addressing several questions to the PUA community out there.

For those of you not in the know, PUA is the acronym for Pick Up Artist.  Apparently there is a following consisting mostly of men that have combined all their knowledge and resources on picking up the ladies.  They gathered this information and formed a sort of seduction school consisting of books, lectures, how-to videos, and other forums.

Please note, when I use the word “seduction” , I use it loosely because in some cases, seduction can mean reverse psychology, inappropriate comments, and even the refusal of buying a drink and expectation to be bought a drink instead.

But then again, some ladies may view this as a sort of challenge and “rise to the occasion”, so to speak.  Therefore, insults turn into a sort of seduction foreplay with the badboy type, which as one PUA blog buddy of mine pointed out…can be fun.

Since my understanding is admittedly limited and had no idea this type of organization existed before joining WordPress, I pose some questions:

  1. Who is the founding father of this technique?
  2. Do these techniques work to attract longterm relationship type girls or merrily used as a ploy to get laid?
  3. Are there variations within the PUA community?  One for sex, the other for marriage?
  4. Is there a difference between the quality type of girl you can get in relation to what technique is being used?
  5. And most importantly, do you have a union?

As I said earlier, I had no idea this PUA organization existed.  I thought they were just the badboys in the bar.  Little did I know …

Looking back, I believe a past friend of mine fell victim to one of these PUA artists.  Through the grapevine, I heard she met a “hot guy” at a bar, they went on one great date, she then flew out to meet him…in Canada, for their second date (she’s the friend in the group that always followed her heart more than her brain).  She then returned back to the states more single than when she left.  Fast forward a bit, unbeknownst to her, he used her in some sort of training video on how to get laid.

As a whole, I think I understand the basics of PUA.  It can act as a sort of confidence booster to the meek guys out there.  It shows them how to be more confident and bold enough to approach ladies he may find attractive.  However, I can’t help put think that through the years, this technique may have been muddied by rogue PUAs that just straight lied to girls for some action.

Keyword here is honesty.  If you’re a badboy, act like one so us ladies know what to expect and enjoy ourselves accordingly.

It’s sort of like the Latin Kings of NY…at first, it was to unite one another and back eachother up.  Then they mutated into a dangerous gang.  No?  Too much?

And what ever happened to guys just coming up and saying “hello?”

Random online dating tip:

  • PUA in the online dating community does exist.  Learn to pick up on redflags if you are looking for a longterm relationship.  A big one: guys that post pics of themselves with other girls hanging on them.  Like in the barscene, some may find that a challenge, and some should not.

Thoughts on the above?  Answers to the above?

Would love to hear from you!

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*pic source: Google images

Is an insult followed by a compliment the new pick up technique nowadays?

“tee hee hee, thank you.”

Hola!  Yesterday I wrote a blog on undergarments and when it’s appropriate to wear them for function versus appeal… well, sorta.  You can read about it here.

In said post, I made mention of a guy that threw in an insult, followed it with a compliment (albeit an inappropriate one), then seemed shocked when his master plan of getting laid didn’t work out.

Three quick tips for the single men out there:

  1. When trying to pick up a lady, check out her ring finger.  If there is a ring on that finger, don’t expect much more than friendly banter.  Sadly this is not always the case, but your potential dating/ hooking up percentages go up significantly when trying to pick up a single lady versus an obviously non single lady at a bar.  That way you can move on and not waste anyone’s time (including your own).
  2. Throwing insults and/or making mention of any body part that would normally be covered by a bikini is not a good idea.  The lady will look at you with disgust and treat you accordingly.  This can range from walking away, throwing a drink in your face, emasculating you verbally, or if you’re really out of line, some sort of physical assault to your groin area.
  3. (Appropriate) compliments are always a good thing.

If you’re semi-good looking, confident, and have no overt flaws, there is no doubt in my mind you will hook up with someone in a place where they serve alcohol, no matter what comes out of your mouth.  But keep in mind, it will be just that…a hook up.

Probably a drunk hook up with an insecure girl who will make it her nights mission proving just how attractive she is to you.  This will not be a long term relationship type of girl.  Not the girl you can take home to mom.  And definitely not the minimal baggage type of girl either.

I want to be very clear, I am not talking about one night stands, cause let’s be honest, everyone I know over 18 has had at least one (no matter how classy they turn out to be).  I’m talking about girls that can take a stranger’s insults and turn them into some sort of challenge.  It’s sad because relationship cycles like this perpetuate their insecurities (anywho, that’s for a more serious blog).

What’s my point?  If you want to hook up with hot, not so hot insecure girls, by all means… go for it.  But if you’re looking for a girl with a little more to her, follow the 3 tips above.

Random online dating tip (or first date tip):

  • Guys should always pay for the first date…yes, I said always.  But girls should always offer and say thank you (after the guy rejects their offer).

For the cheapies out there, think of it as an investment in your future.  This is the first date.  Try to court a little, even if you don’t like her enough for a second date.

You never know if she has a hot friend she can refer you to.  Last thing you want is to be known as the cheap guy to all her friends on cyberspace.

What are some pick up techniques you follow?  Do they work?  Is a simple introduction over-rated?  Who pays on a first date?

Would love to hear from you!

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Do you always have to wear sexy underwear?

Hey there!  As some of you read, I went back to my old stomping grounds in NYC not too long ago.  In making the rounds seeing family and friends, I of course, went out drinking with bestie…duh.

Feeling, (and looking), fabulous.  We went to a rooftop lounge somewhere downtown.  Surprisingly, we were approached several times. I say surprisingly because when we were both single, there wasn’t a guy that was ballsy enough to say hi.  They just gave creepy stares from afar.  Now that we’re hitched and have some wrinkles, men were coming out of the woodwork.

This blog will discuss one in particular who had this sort of jackassy thing going on.

The scene: Bestie and I were on the rooftop drinking glasses of pinot like the classy ladies we are.

Note: I pretty much licked my glass dry because glasses of wine on Manhattan rooftop bars cost the same as a small gold nugget.

Anywho, this tall, thin, overtly punk-metrosexual  guy came up to us.  Think fancy suit jacket with a pocket square paired with skinny jeans (?) and converse sneakers.  Upon talking (strictly for blog fodder), he confessed he was from Cali…

Ahhh, ok.  So at least we knew the outfit was for real and he wasn’t a NYC poser.

All of a sudden, he looks down at me (cause he’s like 6’7″), and makes mention of my “industrial size bra straps” on my tank dress.  Err yah.  He then proceeds to say I have huge boobs and skinny arms.  And… he’s a “tit guy”.

Granted, I have been out of the dating scene for a while now.  Normally, I would have smacked the mohawk off of him.  But I was stunned.  Shocked.  He caught me completely off guard.  I have never, ever (even in my wild days), been spoken to that way.

Luckily, bestie wasn’t one to lose her composure, or icey stare.  She said a few choice words and  tall lanky guy slivered away.

So besides my initial thought of wtf is going on with guys today (which I’ll address in a future blog), I was left feeling insecure about my industrial size bra straps.

This brings up several questions:

  • Do you always have to wear sexy under things even when no one other than you will see them?
  • Whats a topheavy girl to do when the only thing strong enough to hold up the boobs are equally as large?
  • And the age old question, do your bra and panties have to match?

I take pleasure in knowing I had non matching, full bottom, neon green panties that day and still felt sexy as ever (even after the jackhole encounter).

And an online dating tip so you can filter out assholes like these:

If a guy uses the word ‘tits’ in an email before meeting in person, most likely he’s not the marrying kind.  Unless he’s a farmer and refers to them as ‘teets’.

Can anyone answer some of the above questions?

Would love to hear from you!

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