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The way too much info guy

“But, I’m just…so…sad.” *

Hey there!  Reminiscing about my semi-recent night out in NYC makes me think about a guy who approached bestie and I and shared way too much information. We ran into him in the line for the bathroom, then again by the bar, then again on the rooftop where he offered to take some pics.  Granted he cropped off the bottom half of my head, but it’s the thought that counts.  He seemed nice enough and funny enough to chat to, but then he started getting a bit too raw.

Maybe it’s because he saw wedding bands on and felt he needed to unload his personal issues on taken women, or maybe he thought being a sensitive soul was the way into a girls heart, or maybe he just had too much to drink.

Regardless, it was a little too much for comfort.  He started telling us how he is a nice guy but doesn’t really get along with his sister.  Ok.  Then he started saying his sister has an attitude problem because she is a lesbian and just came out.  What?  Ok.  But then he starts saying he is clinically depressed and takes medication.  Say what?

Words of advice:

  • When meeting someone, anyone outside of the medical profession, for the first time, do not bring up negative family dynamics or personal mental health issues.  This does not make for light banter and makes the other person uncomfortable.

Bestie and I ran away when he went to the bathroom.  He found us again, and brought his skeezy friend.  Maybe he didn’t see the wedding band?

His skeezy friend happened to be the the person I wrote about here.  Perhaps Mr. Asshole was trying to balance out Mr. Too Much Info?  Could jackass have been an unsuccessful trainer of sorts?  What do you think?

Random Online Dating Tip:

  • When meeting for a first date, don’t make it a double or group scenario.  It should just be the two of you.  That way, you and your date can get to see if there is a chance for a second date.

Ever met a wingman that was horrible at his job?  Or have you ever met two people completely opposite of one-another yet close friends?  How do you feel about group first dates?  Think they help or hinder a budding relationship?

Would love to hear from you!

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*pic source

Men, why so shy?

“Two drinks down, one to go… then she wont be able to resist…muhahah”

Hey there!  A recent post of mine was about the not so elusive PUA community.  For those that haven’t had the chance to read though, you can find it here.  Be sure to read the comments below for some answers/ observations to questions asked.  Before I continue, I would like to thank some members of this world for the insight you gave me.

Ladies, they’re not all bad… we just need to learn how to sense a douche from a gem… much like what we do day to day anyways.  Hint: if there is a recording device of any kind documenting your first encounter, most likely it’s not to show the grandkids.

The basic principle is giving men the confidence they need to approach a lady they are interested in…mostly.

This leaves me wondering: What is going on with men nowadays?

Every year that passes, men seem to get more and more timid.  What happened to the go-getter who wasn’t too shy to ask a woman out?  This man transformed into a delicate creature who is too afraid to even say “hi”.  Instead, he would gawk from afar, wait till the lady he has his eye on got herself drunk (with her own money mind you), then pull some Mike the Situation Jersey Shore creeper move.  It’s gotten to the point where men can barely “wink”, or send out an introductory email on an online dating site.

Are they that afraid of rejection?  Have we traumatized them so severely that they don’t even bother coming up at all anymore?  It almost seems that we switched roles and men are now the “fairer sex”.

A dating coach who commented on my last PUA blog brought up a good point and said this behavior has to do with competition.  There is always a bigger better someone out there, especially with all of these technological advances in finding a date, both sexes tend to get picky.  A little too picky.

He brings up a good point.

Random online dating tip (cause that’s what I do):

  • If a guy you meet online (or really any guy) refuses to call you, ever, and prefers to just text, even after you call and leave a message asking him to CALL you back, he’s just not interested.  And I’m not talking about one instance, I’m talking about never calling you.

What’s your take?  Why are men so shy?  Are we woman partly to blame?  Is technology at fault?  Maybe tv shows like Jersey Shore?  Am I the only one who loves the Dos Equis guy?  Why can’t they be like that guy?

Would love to hear from you!

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Is an insult followed by a compliment the new pick up technique nowadays?

“tee hee hee, thank you.”

Hola!  Yesterday I wrote a blog on undergarments and when it’s appropriate to wear them for function versus appeal… well, sorta.  You can read about it here.

In said post, I made mention of a guy that threw in an insult, followed it with a compliment (albeit an inappropriate one), then seemed shocked when his master plan of getting laid didn’t work out.

Three quick tips for the single men out there:

  1. When trying to pick up a lady, check out her ring finger.  If there is a ring on that finger, don’t expect much more than friendly banter.  Sadly this is not always the case, but your potential dating/ hooking up percentages go up significantly when trying to pick up a single lady versus an obviously non single lady at a bar.  That way you can move on and not waste anyone’s time (including your own).
  2. Throwing insults and/or making mention of any body part that would normally be covered by a bikini is not a good idea.  The lady will look at you with disgust and treat you accordingly.  This can range from walking away, throwing a drink in your face, emasculating you verbally, or if you’re really out of line, some sort of physical assault to your groin area.
  3. (Appropriate) compliments are always a good thing.

If you’re semi-good looking, confident, and have no overt flaws, there is no doubt in my mind you will hook up with someone in a place where they serve alcohol, no matter what comes out of your mouth.  But keep in mind, it will be just that…a hook up.

Probably a drunk hook up with an insecure girl who will make it her nights mission proving just how attractive she is to you.  This will not be a long term relationship type of girl.  Not the girl you can take home to mom.  And definitely not the minimal baggage type of girl either.

I want to be very clear, I am not talking about one night stands, cause let’s be honest, everyone I know over 18 has had at least one (no matter how classy they turn out to be).  I’m talking about girls that can take a stranger’s insults and turn them into some sort of challenge.  It’s sad because relationship cycles like this perpetuate their insecurities (anywho, that’s for a more serious blog).

What’s my point?  If you want to hook up with hot, not so hot insecure girls, by all means… go for it.  But if you’re looking for a girl with a little more to her, follow the 3 tips above.

Random online dating tip (or first date tip):

  • Guys should always pay for the first date…yes, I said always.  But girls should always offer and say thank you (after the guy rejects their offer).

For the cheapies out there, think of it as an investment in your future.  This is the first date.  Try to court a little, even if you don’t like her enough for a second date.

You never know if she has a hot friend she can refer you to.  Last thing you want is to be known as the cheap guy to all her friends on cyberspace.

What are some pick up techniques you follow?  Do they work?  Is a simple introduction over-rated?  Who pays on a first date?

Would love to hear from you!

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Do you always have to wear sexy underwear?

Hey there!  As some of you read, I went back to my old stomping grounds in NYC not too long ago.  In making the rounds seeing family and friends, I of course, went out drinking with bestie…duh.

Feeling, (and looking), fabulous.  We went to a rooftop lounge somewhere downtown.  Surprisingly, we were approached several times. I say surprisingly because when we were both single, there wasn’t a guy that was ballsy enough to say hi.  They just gave creepy stares from afar.  Now that we’re hitched and have some wrinkles, men were coming out of the woodwork.

This blog will discuss one in particular who had this sort of jackassy thing going on.

The scene: Bestie and I were on the rooftop drinking glasses of pinot like the classy ladies we are.

Note: I pretty much licked my glass dry because glasses of wine on Manhattan rooftop bars cost the same as a small gold nugget.

Anywho, this tall, thin, overtly punk-metrosexual  guy came up to us.  Think fancy suit jacket with a pocket square paired with skinny jeans (?) and converse sneakers.  Upon talking (strictly for blog fodder), he confessed he was from Cali…

Ahhh, ok.  So at least we knew the outfit was for real and he wasn’t a NYC poser.

All of a sudden, he looks down at me (cause he’s like 6’7″), and makes mention of my “industrial size bra straps” on my tank dress.  Err yah.  He then proceeds to say I have huge boobs and skinny arms.  And… he’s a “tit guy”.

Granted, I have been out of the dating scene for a while now.  Normally, I would have smacked the mohawk off of him.  But I was stunned.  Shocked.  He caught me completely off guard.  I have never, ever (even in my wild days), been spoken to that way.

Luckily, bestie wasn’t one to lose her composure, or icey stare.  She said a few choice words and  tall lanky guy slivered away.

So besides my initial thought of wtf is going on with guys today (which I’ll address in a future blog), I was left feeling insecure about my industrial size bra straps.

This brings up several questions:

  • Do you always have to wear sexy under things even when no one other than you will see them?
  • Whats a topheavy girl to do when the only thing strong enough to hold up the boobs are equally as large?
  • And the age old question, do your bra and panties have to match?

I take pleasure in knowing I had non matching, full bottom, neon green panties that day and still felt sexy as ever (even after the jackhole encounter).

And an online dating tip so you can filter out assholes like these:

If a guy uses the word ‘tits’ in an email before meeting in person, most likely he’s not the marrying kind.  Unless he’s a farmer and refers to them as ‘teets’.

Can anyone answer some of the above questions?

Would love to hear from you!

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Birthday sunrise

Hello hello!  As a true narcissist, I would like to point out that today is my birthday. This means that today you should see things a little brighter, and feel a sense of contentment (since I’m in the world).

In an effort to maintain my girly physique, not really an effort because my physique is wonderful of course, I went for a morning walk and came across the most beautiful sunrise.

I leave you with an awe inspiring mobile pic.

Isn’t it gorg?

Random online dating tip of the morning:

Don’t wear fake lashes on a first date… unless you’re meeting at a costume party, S&M club, or plucked your natural lashes out due to your trichotillomania.  Otherwise, you look like high maintenance.

Anyone take morning walks?  What are some awe inspiring pics you captured?

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I’m back!

errr… welcome back.  My master didn’t think you’d mind a little free fertilizer

Hey there!  Finally made it back home this early am from a businessy-vaca.  I know that some most of you were probably busy building shrines with big hair, in my likeness, and presenting daily offerings in hopes that I might return sooner.  The wait is over, alas, I have finally returned.  No?  Sorry, One of the places visited was Greece… too much ouzo.

As mentioned, I am not too tech savvy, but once I figure out how to add a new tab, I’ll start a “travel” section with tons of pics.

Plus, I will get a chance to catch up on all of your fabulous blogs, post some new awards (thank you!!), and of course add more dating / online dating tips/ tricks/ and everything in between.

Till then, I leave you with some advice… if you have a dog, do not let them shit on your neighbor’s lawn while they are away, otherwise there will be hell to pay.

Nothing like hosing off your neighbor’s dog shit off your luggage wheels to make for a relaxing morning.

Anyone been to Greece?  Who likes ouzo?  After drinking it, did you feel a few chest hairs sprout from your body?

Would love to hear from you!

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First stop…New York!

Yo, yo, yo…(in honor of my fellow NYers).

So sorry I’ve been blog absent but I’ve been busy packing!

On my way to NY, then off we go overseas for a bit.  Will try to catch up on my blogs, your blogs, and everything in between.

First stop…New York!  xoxo-

Lady Liberty

Anyone here from NY/ been there/ online date someone from there?  What has been your experience?  I want to hear the good, bad, and ugly!

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