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PUA community… where you at?

“This course is really paying off”.*

Happy Columbus day!  The writing of my last post, which you can read here,  sparked some great comments, so in honor of keeping them going…and also attempting to gain some undercover lady intel, I’m addressing several questions to the PUA community out there.

For those of you not in the know, PUA is the acronym for Pick Up Artist.  Apparently there is a following consisting mostly of men that have combined all their knowledge and resources on picking up the ladies.  They gathered this information and formed a sort of seduction school consisting of books, lectures, how-to videos, and other forums.

Please note, when I use the word “seduction” , I use it loosely because in some cases, seduction can mean reverse psychology, inappropriate comments, and even the refusal of buying a drink and expectation to be bought a drink instead.

But then again, some ladies may view this as a sort of challenge and “rise to the occasion”, so to speak.  Therefore, insults turn into a sort of seduction foreplay with the badboy type, which as one PUA blog buddy of mine pointed out…can be fun.

Since my understanding is admittedly limited and had no idea this type of organization existed before joining WordPress, I pose some questions:

  1. Who is the founding father of this technique?
  2. Do these techniques work to attract longterm relationship type girls or merrily used as a ploy to get laid?
  3. Are there variations within the PUA community?  One for sex, the other for marriage?
  4. Is there a difference between the quality type of girl you can get in relation to what technique is being used?
  5. And most importantly, do you have a union?

As I said earlier, I had no idea this PUA organization existed.  I thought they were just the badboys in the bar.  Little did I know …

Looking back, I believe a past friend of mine fell victim to one of these PUA artists.  Through the grapevine, I heard she met a “hot guy” at a bar, they went on one great date, she then flew out to meet him…in Canada, for their second date (she’s the friend in the group that always followed her heart more than her brain).  She then returned back to the states more single than when she left.  Fast forward a bit, unbeknownst to her, he used her in some sort of training video on how to get laid.

As a whole, I think I understand the basics of PUA.  It can act as a sort of confidence booster to the meek guys out there.  It shows them how to be more confident and bold enough to approach ladies he may find attractive.  However, I can’t help put think that through the years, this technique may have been muddied by rogue PUAs that just straight lied to girls for some action.

Keyword here is honesty.  If you’re a badboy, act like one so us ladies know what to expect and enjoy ourselves accordingly.

It’s sort of like the Latin Kings of NY…at first, it was to unite one another and back eachother up.  Then they mutated into a dangerous gang.  No?  Too much?

And what ever happened to guys just coming up and saying “hello?”

Random online dating tip:

  • PUA in the online dating community does exist.  Learn to pick up on redflags if you are looking for a longterm relationship.  A big one: guys that post pics of themselves with other girls hanging on them.  Like in the barscene, some may find that a challenge, and some should not.

Thoughts on the above?  Answers to the above?

Would love to hear from you!

*help me rule the world and follow me on twitter: @angiegomez1010 *

*pic source: Google images

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Excuses, excuses, excuses

Hey there!  Again, many apologies for being a non-blogger as of late.  Is it something in the air?  I don’t seem to be the only one who is MIA (evidenced by the many blogs I’ve read beginning with a similar apology).

Here is a rundown of my own personal excuses (some better than others):

  1. Got home from 3 week getaway and wanted to veg out (sleep and do laundry)
  2. Consumed with organizing pics to online albums
  3. After ordering over 500 pics derived from said painstakingly organized online albums, was disappointed when they arrived fuzzy and of poor quality… all 500+ of them
  4. The anger only grew when BOTH hubby and my laptops got a virus the same day I returned a box full of pics back and was ready to take them to a local store to print (so I can keep a watchful and somewhat threatening eye on the photo tech)
  5. Catching up on missed RealHousewives drama (including their blogs), has kept me blissfully brain dead and unable to form full sentences (or thoughts)

Could it be that a larger than life force is preventing me from printing prints to make cutesy travel albums?  I dunno.

Egypt pics to quench your thirst while I shake the laziness and picture frustration out of me:

(Pyramids of Giza)  Yes, hubby always looks like he’s attacking me in pretty much every photo we’re in together.

A little perspective on size.

And a random online dating tip for good measure:

Guys (and gals), do not wear bowling shoes on a first date unless you are going bowling.  Otherwise, your date will be wondering ‘what’s up with the bowling shoes?’  Trust me, they don’t make you look hipster chic… just strange.

Who has seen any of the world wonders?  Where have you gone?  What’s your take on bowling shoe etiquette?  Ok to wear them as sneakers or just at the lanes?

Would love to hear from you!

*help me rule the world and follow me on twitter: @angiegomez1010 *

Birthday sunrise

Hello hello!  As a true narcissist, I would like to point out that today is my birthday. This means that today you should see things a little brighter, and feel a sense of contentment (since I’m in the world).

In an effort to maintain my girly physique, not really an effort because my physique is wonderful of course, I went for a morning walk and came across the most beautiful sunrise.

I leave you with an awe inspiring mobile pic.

Isn’t it gorg?

Random online dating tip of the morning:

Don’t wear fake lashes on a first date… unless you’re meeting at a costume party, S&M club, or plucked your natural lashes out due to your trichotillomania.  Otherwise, you look like high maintenance.

Anyone take morning walks?  What are some awe inspiring pics you captured?

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I’m back!

errr… welcome back.  My master didn’t think you’d mind a little free fertilizer

Hey there!  Finally made it back home this early am from a businessy-vaca.  I know that some most of you were probably busy building shrines with big hair, in my likeness, and presenting daily offerings in hopes that I might return sooner.  The wait is over, alas, I have finally returned.  No?  Sorry, One of the places visited was Greece… too much ouzo.

As mentioned, I am not too tech savvy, but once I figure out how to add a new tab, I’ll start a “travel” section with tons of pics.

Plus, I will get a chance to catch up on all of your fabulous blogs, post some new awards (thank you!!), and of course add more dating / online dating tips/ tricks/ and everything in between.

Till then, I leave you with some advice… if you have a dog, do not let them shit on your neighbor’s lawn while they are away, otherwise there will be hell to pay.

Nothing like hosing off your neighbor’s dog shit off your luggage wheels to make for a relaxing morning.

Anyone been to Greece?  Who likes ouzo?  After drinking it, did you feel a few chest hairs sprout from your body?

Would love to hear from you!

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First stop…New York!

Yo, yo, yo…(in honor of my fellow NYers).

So sorry I’ve been blog absent but I’ve been busy packing!

On my way to NY, then off we go overseas for a bit.  Will try to catch up on my blogs, your blogs, and everything in between.

First stop…New York!  xoxo-

Lady Liberty

Anyone here from NY/ been there/ online date someone from there?  What has been your experience?  I want to hear the good, bad, and ugly!

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Online dating… read in between the lines

“The fact you are a homeowner makes you look sexy in that suit”… sizzle

Hola!  So I set my mom up on an online dating site a while ago in hopes of finding her a match in sunny Florida.  I know this was mentioned before, but if you didn’t read one of my earlier posts … I’ll say it again.  Guys are pervy no matter what age they are.

As a matter of fact, the older they get, the more candid they become.  For example, instead of saying they are looking to wine and dine the love of their life and find a “true soul mate” to watch the sunrise and sunset… these senior citizens ask for sex, immediately.  Something like “Hey, you want to have sex tomorrow?”, is a common ice-breaker.

I can appreciate the honesty, but really?

So when there was a guy who seemed a little nerdy and reserved, was interested in my mother, we both got a little excited.  Emails were exchanged.

The more emails were sent, the more red flags started popping up.

This is what I learned:

  1. If someone says they are constantly out of town… all the time… over the course of several months, move on
  2. If they say they have a high degree as well as position, yet have an overabundance of spelling and grammatical errors, most likely they hold no degree and have a job they are not proud of
  3. They must have more than one picture
  4. Viagra makes old men horny
  5. You should not respond to personal questionnaires sent by potential matches where one of the questions is asking if you own or rent your home (seriously, this actually happened)
  6. The only questionnaires answered or sent should be from the online dating site itself
  7. Be very wary of matches who close their email with “love and kisses”
  8. There are a lot of young guys who troll for much older women
  9. The senior population needs to be wary of people who sound too good to be true… beware of predators

Mom is still online but is also going to try her luck in senior social events as well.

Does anyone out there know of any tips/tricks/events to successful online/offline senior dating?

Or better yet, a single, quirky senior in the South Florida area?

Who here can share their senior online dating stories or input on senior dating in general?

Would love to hear from you!

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Friends that make you go…hmmmm

there was something about her that guys loved

Hi there!  Today’s blog topic will be on friends that make you go…hmmmm?  I’ve noticed the older I get, the more selective my choice in friends becomes.  Is it because I moved to a new land, away from my native NY?  Maybe people in South Florida don’t “get” my big hair.  It’s not my fault the humidity down here makes it grow like a chia pet.  Or maybe it’s my shiny face that glows like a beacon in the neverending Summer heat (which I love by the way).  Whatever the reason, the outcome can sometimes get a little lonely.

When alone, I start reminiscing about the friends I no longer have.  One in particular comes to mind.  She was the party girl who was a world of fun.  The one that seemed to befriend strangers everywhere she went.  It must have been her piercing blue eyes, giant breasts, and acrylic bedazzled tips that sent people in a tizzy.  Whatever it was, her charm was like a magnet.

That was, until we got older.  I could no longer shrug my shoulders and say, “oh, that’s just ___ being her crazy self”.  Through the years she would always fall for the wrong types of guys.  Guys that cheated, lied, still lived with their mother and young wife…

She would become more and more bitter, to the point where she would lie to her friends about her “awesome” life.  Meanwhile, each of us would hear bits and pieces of the truth.  It was like a sad story we had to put together like a complicated puzzle.  We were all concerned.

Her bitterness and party girl demeanor grew with age.  Her piercing blue eyes were often glazed over and her priorities remained stagnant, similar to what they were in her early 20’s, not 30’s.

After many “concerned talks”, I came to realize that sometimes people are not ready to be helped.  They sometimes don’t want to listen.  I had to cut her off.

Guess what, she did the same.  I suppose she didn’t want to hear my concerns, as much as I didn’t want to hear about the latest man of her dreams.  It’s been almost two years since we spoke.

But not to worry, we both met new people with similar priorities.  Sometimes people grow apart, and that’s ok.

People have asked how I learned what I’ve learned.  It’s through personal experience as well as shared stories of friends and family members.  Learn from both yourself and the people around you.

What I’ve learned:

  1. It’s not wise to profess you met your soul mate after 1 week of dating, break up, make up, break up, then meet another soul mate 2 weeks later and profess the same thing
  2. There is no good excuse for your soul mate to have provocative pics of “his ex” on FB… no matter how old the pic
  3. Drinking multiple bottles of wine as part of your pre-gaming ritual catches up with you sooner than you think
  4. Acrylics are bad for your nails… I used to wear them myself (when I rented a Summer share at the Jersey Shore)..oh yeah, I was that girl
  5. I can’t dance to house music no matter how inebriated I am
  6. It’s ok to have different types of friends (even party friends), trick is learning to let them go when they begin to affect your personal well-being
  7. Guys love cleavage
  8. Birds of a feather flock together

Anyone had a party hearty friend you had to cut off?  Or maybe they are still in your life?  Are you that party hearty friend?  Who here tried online dating?  Sorry, had to throw it in there.

Would love to hear from you!

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