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Men, why so shy?

“Two drinks down, one to go… then she wont be able to resist…muhahah”

Hey there!  A recent post of mine was about the not so elusive PUA community.  For those that haven’t had the chance to read though, you can find it here.  Be sure to read the comments below for some answers/ observations to questions asked.  Before I continue, I would like to thank some members of this world for the insight you gave me.

Ladies, they’re not all bad… we just need to learn how to sense a douche from a gem… much like what we do day to day anyways.  Hint: if there is a recording device of any kind documenting your first encounter, most likely it’s not to show the grandkids.

The basic principle is giving men the confidence they need to approach a lady they are interested in…mostly.

This leaves me wondering: What is going on with men nowadays?

Every year that passes, men seem to get more and more timid.  What happened to the go-getter who wasn’t too shy to ask a woman out?  This man transformed into a delicate creature who is too afraid to even say “hi”.  Instead, he would gawk from afar, wait till the lady he has his eye on got herself drunk (with her own money mind you), then pull some Mike the Situation Jersey Shore creeper move.  It’s gotten to the point where men can barely “wink”, or send out an introductory email on an online dating site.

Are they that afraid of rejection?  Have we traumatized them so severely that they don’t even bother coming up at all anymore?  It almost seems that we switched roles and men are now the “fairer sex”.

A dating coach who commented on my last PUA blog brought up a good point and said this behavior has to do with competition.  There is always a bigger better someone out there, especially with all of these technological advances in finding a date, both sexes tend to get picky.  A little too picky.

He brings up a good point.

Random online dating tip (cause that’s what I do):

  • If a guy you meet online (or really any guy) refuses to call you, ever, and prefers to just text, even after you call and leave a message asking him to CALL you back, he’s just not interested.  And I’m not talking about one instance, I’m talking about never calling you.

What’s your take?  Why are men so shy?  Are we woman partly to blame?  Is technology at fault?  Maybe tv shows like Jersey Shore?  Am I the only one who loves the Dos Equis guy?  Why can’t they be like that guy?

Would love to hear from you!

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