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PUA community… where you at?

“This course is really paying off”.*

Happy Columbus day!  The writing of my last post, which you can read here,  sparked some great comments, so in honor of keeping them going…and also attempting to gain some undercover lady intel, I’m addressing several questions to the PUA community out there.

For those of you not in the know, PUA is the acronym for Pick Up Artist.  Apparently there is a following consisting mostly of men that have combined all their knowledge and resources on picking up the ladies.  They gathered this information and formed a sort of seduction school consisting of books, lectures, how-to videos, and other forums.

Please note, when I use the word “seduction” , I use it loosely because in some cases, seduction can mean reverse psychology, inappropriate comments, and even the refusal of buying a drink and expectation to be bought a drink instead.

But then again, some ladies may view this as a sort of challenge and “rise to the occasion”, so to speak.  Therefore, insults turn into a sort of seduction foreplay with the badboy type, which as one PUA blog buddy of mine pointed out…can be fun.

Since my understanding is admittedly limited and had no idea this type of organization existed before joining WordPress, I pose some questions:

  1. Who is the founding father of this technique?
  2. Do these techniques work to attract longterm relationship type girls or merrily used as a ploy to get laid?
  3. Are there variations within the PUA community?  One for sex, the other for marriage?
  4. Is there a difference between the quality type of girl you can get in relation to what technique is being used?
  5. And most importantly, do you have a union?

As I said earlier, I had no idea this PUA organization existed.  I thought they were just the badboys in the bar.  Little did I know …

Looking back, I believe a past friend of mine fell victim to one of these PUA artists.  Through the grapevine, I heard she met a “hot guy” at a bar, they went on one great date, she then flew out to meet him…in Canada, for their second date (she’s the friend in the group that always followed her heart more than her brain).  She then returned back to the states more single than when she left.  Fast forward a bit, unbeknownst to her, he used her in some sort of training video on how to get laid.

As a whole, I think I understand the basics of PUA.  It can act as a sort of confidence booster to the meek guys out there.  It shows them how to be more confident and bold enough to approach ladies he may find attractive.  However, I can’t help put think that through the years, this technique may have been muddied by rogue PUAs that just straight lied to girls for some action.

Keyword here is honesty.  If you’re a badboy, act like one so us ladies know what to expect and enjoy ourselves accordingly.

It’s sort of like the Latin Kings of NY…at first, it was to unite one another and back eachother up.  Then they mutated into a dangerous gang.  No?  Too much?

And what ever happened to guys just coming up and saying “hello?”

Random online dating tip:

  • PUA in the online dating community does exist.  Learn to pick up on redflags if you are looking for a longterm relationship.  A big one: guys that post pics of themselves with other girls hanging on them.  Like in the barscene, some may find that a challenge, and some should not.

Thoughts on the above?  Answers to the above?

Would love to hear from you!

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